Have you been trying to win the love of a really hot guy, but nothing is working and you don't know what to do anymore? Are you a regular on the singles scene and you now want to become one half of a great couple? Is it hard switching over from single thought process to relationship building thought process?
Some women get stuck in that mold of wild and fancy free dating and think that it will carry over well as they seek out a serious contender for a stable relationship. For the most part, the guys who are hanging out in single's hang outs aren't really looking to hook up for real. And if you're maintaining your wild and sexy attitude, the one guy who may have strayed in hoping to find love will most likely look right past you.
Beyond Sexuality
We've been trained, if not completely brainwashed to believe that sex is all there is. So naturally when we try to hook up with a guy it's our first line of defense. Sex draws them in, keeps them looking and keeps them interested.
But for how long?
For a real relationship to grow you need to move beyond this and fast. If a guy is quick to assess that all you're good for is a fun lay, whatever more you may have to offer is not going to interest him. Try switching things around and work to create a great bond with him first.
Don't jump into bed, but have this great conversation with him. Get to know him and let him see that you truly are a fabulous woman with lots to offer.
Keep Pressure Out
If things are going along nicely, but you're feeling that strong desire to move things more quickly, resist. This isn't something you really want to push a guy into. Let his emotions build on their own. Let him realize the gem he's found in you.
The more you try to push him into a relationship the harder time you'll have. Hold back, be patient and let the love grow. Without pressure, he'll fall in love with you a lot sooner.
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