The word "bad boy" has been thrown around in the seduction community like water. Pick-up gurus will say that in order to get the girl you must become a bad boy. What if you are not a bad boy? What if you are a good guy that doesn't want to play mind games with chicks or cheat on them with their best friend? What if you don't like to be in the lime light? What if you are so confused about being a bad boy or yourself that you wanna pull your hair out? It is true that some women love bad boys. It is also true that some women love the good guys. I was watching a video that a woman broke down the bad boy, the good guy, and the "nice" guy. She did a really good job that help clear a little confusion I had. But this article is not about the good guy, or even about the bad boy himself. This article is here to give you the "why" women loves these guys.
To be honest it's not the bad boy himself that she loves...it's something that she is lacking that she is trying to get from him. If a woman is bored with her life or her significant other, a man that is adventurous or bold excites her. If he doesn't try to stay on her good side (like most people do or like her boyfriend/husband does) then she finds him to be a challenge. You see, there is a good thing about the bad boy that women love...he says what he wants and does what he wants. Women love protection and a sense of security. The bad boy gives off a vibe that he doesn't take crap from anybody. If you don't take crap from anybody then the girl feels that no crap will come her way from other people. Women, just like men, love spontaneity. At any moment there may be some excitement that can come along. A road trip, an unplanned vacation, etc.--we can all agree that when something fun out of the blue happens, we get excited. The bad boy prides himself on being spontaneous.
Now as far as women like being treated like crap from these guys is a different story but as I write this I am coming to a better understanding in real time (funny how that happens sometimes) Let's use a beautiful woman and a guy that never dates at all. This man may have it in his head that he will do anything to be with this woman solely off of her looks. If she disrespects him he will take it. He will put up with her bull and try to stay on her good side. Women don't like this--only if they can use it to their advantage. As far as being with someone as a significant other, they don't respect it. What does the bad boy do? He checks her and lets her know that her looks are nothing and that she is nothing until she acts like she has some sense and can respect him. If she flakes on him then he will move on to another chick. He won't keep calling or begging her to go out with her. So being that this is the type of guy that she is looking for, she will be on her best behavior. Now the question about if women like being treated like crap. Just like the guy that has never dated, the woman may have never met a guy that has ever excited her like the bad boy. So she will tolerate a little disrespect her and there. A little cheating here and there. Why? Because she doesn't want to lose him! Just like men who don't date get desperate, women get desperate too. They get desperate to find a man that can excite them. If the man is "good-looking" she will lose her mind just to keep him.
What does this tell you? That you have to be a bad boy? No! Not even close. All you need is the qualities that attract women. The bad boy happens to have these qualities. He knows how to excite them. He knows how to keep them on their toes. You can too. You don't need to be over the top. You don't need to work extra hard. All you need to do fine tune your masculine confidence. That's right! That is the key--masculine confidence. The bad boy knows how to use his masculine confidence. Believe it or not but so does the good guy (think of your favorite heroes like superman and batman).
So you may be asking, "What do you mean 'masculine confidence'?" I mean that confidence that every masculine man has but has never really tapped into it. Most men think that you have to be a bad boy to get the girl, but miss the whole point.
Men are confused for obvious reasons. Women go for a certain type and the average man tries to be that type. When he becomes that type he may be losing his true self in the process. He doesn't understand that his success with women only requires him to strengthen his masculine confidence. Women can't resist men who are very masculine and strong. A man that can excite her to the point that she will lose her mind if she loses him. Be that man. Take action and learn how to become that man.
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